Moving back Part 2

Its not easy juggling work with blogging o!!

I cannot but wonder how other bloggers update and concentrate on work simultaneously. Maybe its cause my home Internet is bad sha, looking forward to getting it fixed, till then i shall be uploading from my office. Hope i never get caught in the act, otherwise they'll be recommending me for suspension.

Let me digress a bit from the title of my post....Work is okay and I'm settling in just fine, I don't have soo much to do now cause I've only just started and still finding my feet but i work very late hours. Why? cos i work directly with the big boss and he works crazy hours"Dude is a workaholic"...so i have to be in the office whether or not i have work to do, someone just has to be there and that person happens to be me. All these while, my good ol companion "FACEBOOK" kept me busy whilst waiting for OGA's brain to shut down so he can go home to his adorable wife, I would just sit at my desk typing away and anyone who came would be rest assured that i was working my butt off not knowing that i was facebooking, Eneways, long and short of the story is that facebook has been blocked in my office...why? because its preventing fellow employees from being productive.

Sh**t.

I was soo pissed when i found out...but what could i do? NOTHING!!! I hurriedly checked you tube...same thing, it had been blocked.Na wah o!!! I then checked blogville and alas, i could still get a dose of those blogs i was addicted to...Ope o!!

Somehow, i suppose if facebook wasn't blocked in my office i wouldn't have summoned up the courage to start my own blog. So in a way, i'm kinda grateful for the exit of facebook in and the beginning of my very own blog.

So my friend, Bully had called Ladi and given him my numbers and yes he did call me a week later. I was very happy that he didn't call me like immediately cos i would have been put off.

Our conversation went very well and he decided that we should meet up. Ladi lived in ikoyi and I in ikeja and didn't have a car so i was just saying to myself that " If this Ladi guy doesn't come to ikeja to look for me, i ain't ever seeing his ass at all o". Ever heard of those Idiots that go like, I don't do bridges? meaning i live on the island hence i dont leave the island. LOL...bULLOCKS.

Ladi calls on Sunday afternoon, he was very polite and asked if he could fetch me to go for a drink somewhere.I said it was okay but I didn't want to go all the way to the island so i decided to stay in ikeja...we settled for a place in GRA ikeja called La something, it was recommended by my younger sister. So the place turned out to be a bit untidy, the waitresses, the place wasn't just as i expected it to be...in order not to scare him away i decided to manage the place like dat. and not make a fuss about it since i chose the venue.

SO WE STARTED TALKING, I HAVE TO SAY THAT I DID MOST OF THE TALKING, because he didn't have much to say, so i went ahead and blabbed about Mzanzi and life as a student blah blah.. somewhere along i noticed that he neither drank nor smoked, never ever did and never will.I used to drink and smoke in the past like my entire existent depended on it.LOL. So i was a bad girl and he was a good boy...whatever joo... I still drink and smoke socially tho. We decided it was time to leave and headed straight for mine to be dropped off, we had a better conversation on the drive home.....he came across as sweet, polite, gentle...And that's exactly how i like my men...we decided to keep in touch and it was barely five weeks after our first meeting that something developed between us...so we started seeing regularly and became a regular caller, we would talk for hours on end...and he just became a part of my daily routine.

P.S

He DIDN'T ASK ME TO BE HIS GIRLFRIEND O! IT WAS JUST ON OF THOSE SITUATIONS WHERE THINGS HAPPENED SO FAST BEFORE ACTUAL DEFINITION OF THE RELATIONSHIP. AND I KEPT HOPING HE'LL ASK...

Somehow we started hanging out, then came the kissing, shagging et all, he wasn't soo good, (he was rather conservative as opposed to adventurous) but i was determined to help him improve LOL...see me talking like I'm a pro.. so yes, i was working on improving him sexually and getting emotionally attached to him at the same time and yes he did improve. Things between us became very intense and we became inseparable..

I'm still not his girlfriend o...

After sometime, i thot to myself that what i need right now isn't a fuck buddy but a boify and I thought he was a potential one, i decided it was time to find out what we were all about and if we could ever be exclusive...

I decided the following weekend that I'd discuss the situation with him..My friend bully was getting married that Saturday and i played a vital role during the whole festivities...Ladi came to the wedding in company of one of his buddies but they couldn't stay long for some reason....so i saw them off and we said the goodbyes of course to see later....I forgot to mention that i was staying over at my friends house in ikoyi that weekend, her name is Amy.

Bully's wedding was great, we had soo much fun we danced like it was going out of fashion and just generally didn't want the day to end but it had to, so on our way to prepare the bride for her grande arrival in her husbands family house i received a text from my boss saying that it was my turn to entertain our American guest that had just arrived couple of days before and my colleague had been playing the perfect hostess.

Gosh! It was my turn to replicate my colleague's gesture and i was knackered, i was battling to stay awake. Boss lady wanted me to take our guest to Picolomondo and La Casa, even tho i love to go out and socialize i just had no plans of seeing the four walls of any nite club that evening but now, i had to take this lady to dinner and two nite clubs ...how worse can my evening get?? ehn? So we arrived at Bully's husbands house and they did the feet washing and prayers commenced, i was just hoping that it would end very soon so i could dash off to Ikoyi asap to meet up with my work peeps..

The ritual ended after another hour and i was free to go, On getting to Ikoyi, my friend was out but left the keys so i could get in, i changed hurriedly into a pair of jeans and a yellow camisole not caring if i looked good or not. I quickly hid the keys back where Amy had left it and placed a call to Ladi to pick me up and he arrived almost immediately. He dropped me off and i proceeded to start the forced outing. The evening dragged on and i couldn't wait for it to come to an end 1st stop was dinner at Reeds, then Picolomondo which she liked, from there we went to La Casa, she absolutely hated it (dont blame the lady) and i was soo glad dat she hated the place, that was my escape route right there and oh yes i made use of it. I rounded up at about 3am and bundled the lady to her hotel in a flash. I was so glad as i was walking into Amy compound, i was imagining the bed and how nice it'll be jumping into it..So i started knocking....and there was no response, i knocked harder and harder, still no response, i was falling asleep i was indeed very tired , i'd had an extremely long day and just needed to lay my head down...i managed to gather some strangth, picked a stone and aimed it at the window still no answer, then i started calling Amy, she didnt pick up, i kept calling and she still wasnt picking...i agve it sometime again, dialed her no and this time she had switched off her phone i was angered...i went and checked the spot where the key was hidden earlier on and it had been removed ...YEEEEEEEEEE !!!! What kind of wahala is this...by this time, mosquitoes had started feasting on my chocolaty skin and i was damn tired...i needed to think but my brain was asleep...Who did i call next? Ladi...after several calls, he callls me back and was scared shitless...

Ladi: hey are you okay? whats wrong?

tcl: sobbing...I'm in Dolphin, outside, i cant get in.

Ladi: why now? go inside

tcl: more sobbing....i cant get in, Amy isn't answering her phone, she's even switched it off and i cant find the keys. I'm tired, and mosquitoes are biting me...more sobbing

Ladi: What do you want me to do now?

tcl: i don't know, sob sob, i just wanna sleep, my eyes are tired.

Ladi:Na wah o....okay I'm coming to get you? should be there in 10 minutes.

Ladi made it to me in approximately nine minutes, the mosquitoes were having a filled day on me and i just couldn't deal with the thought of having tripple plus malaria the next morning or days after. I jumped into the car and and was longing for his bed. So we get to his house, he gives me a very good massage and i slept beautifully!!! That was some much needed pampering you'll agree with me.

I woke up in the morning still feeling tired but much better than the previous night..the following conversation ensues between us.

Ladi says: how are you? sleep well?

tcl: I'm okay thanks..thanks for picking me up

Ladi: no worries, There's something i need to talk to you about?

tcl: oh okay, what is it? please go ahead.

Ladi: Its about us...

tcl: okay I'm all ears.

Ladi: You're a wonderful person tiffanycaselady, I find you very attractive and really like you a whole lot, i know u know this very much..yeah???

tcl: thanks...hmmmmm.....sh**t this guy's beat me to it....

Ladi: i've been thinking about this thing we've got going on, i think we shld ease it a lil bit...we should concentrate more on the friendship...the sex is sort of overshadowing the friendship proper

tcl: ehennnn....really, i didn't think soo oh...okay ...sooo????

Ladi: I think we should concentrate more on building a stronger friendly realationship blah blah blah....

tcl: okay i hear you, i didn't think our friendship was lacking in anyway, its not like the only thing we do when we are together is have sex....abeg...tell me you're tired or you're scared of getting emotionally attached or scared of commitments and i'll understand....we talk for hours on end every day...okay i get it..no problem..no more sex..dats what you want abi...cool sturvvs!!

Ladi: this cannot and will not put any strain on our relationship, instead it'll make it work better.

tcl...yeah whatever!!!

Of course i was very upset...livid with anger in fact but i tried to contain it till i left his house...went back to my dodgy Amy friend who wasn't in support with the realationship with Ladi anyways( he disapproved of her friendship as well)...she only made me feel worse, cos all she said was you see, he just wanted to shagg you, he's done now and he wants out...i told her it wasn't soo, that he liked me and the feeling was mutual...i was reassuring myself...The phone calls from ladi neither reduced nor stopped, he called more regularly, he sent me a wake up text daily and followed up phone calls and we'll chat till he got to his office..in fact he'd call me at least 6times a day...we were able to do the no shagging thingie for only two weeks after which we resumed full time...LOL..I also have to remind you that the advances to resume the act was made by him and after refusing for some time i just gave in. And it felt much betetr, still no mention of me being his girlfriend...I'm really sorry to shock you guys but we were giving them skin to skin...and it was sweet......this went on for another 2 months until i decided that it was enough, he wasnt forthcoming on us dating and that was really what i wanted, unfortunately for me, i went about it the wrong way by giving up my cake lol...i shouldnt have... i guess i now know that its a golden rule. NEVER GIVE IT UP!! so we said our good bye's, we still talked regularly but i always avoided seeing him.

About 4weeks or so after we said our goodbyes, i fell ill.....i discovered on my way to work , i was just feeling very dizzy and wanted to puke...i had to beg the driver to stop at dolphin at Amy's house,,os i could sit in the toilet for a bit....this i did and i felt releived after a couple of minutes. I started heading to the office, by the time i got to the office, i was feeling much worse than i did earlier on....my boss panicked and ordered me to be sent to the hospital for a check up...tests were run and when results came out, it turned out that i had malaria ++ I received treatment and was fine in a three days ..i resumed work....4 days aftre my resumption, i started feeling sick again, this time it was headaches, it was unbearable...i dashed to the lab this time again. did the widal test, preganancy test and malaria parasite test....the lady told me to come back in an hour for the result but i refused and insisted on waiting .....after a much prolonged wait...1hr45mins, the result finally came

Widal: Negative

Malaria Parasite: Negative

PREGNANCY TEST; POSITIVE

yeee paaa

Damn.....I was soo pregnant...sh**t and it was for no one else but Ladi....Iwas scared..I flashed back to scenes in the various Yoruba home videos where the babe is trying to tell her boify that she is preggie and the guy says ta lo loyun? Who is the father? i soo hate those scenes.

How will i present my case.....Mo ti rogo o...I'm in trouble.Iwas very sad...I called Bully immediately and she said what!!!! are you kidding me...you don get belle? Omo na wah o....can you beleive it...she was having a fucking laugh at my expense...i would have sucker punched her if she was within my reach. Long and short... she said, just call him and tell him o....and i developed cold feet immediately, how was i going to say this.... i had no slightest clue.

I called him up the next day, and told him we needed to see urgently!! he said his add was in town and they were having a family meeting so i said i'll wait for him in his apartment....I arrived at his, made my self comfy and awaited his arrival...My plan was to hand him the pregnancy test which i had sealed in a nice white envelope...at least the test will do all the expalnation, i didnt really have to say a word...He came into his apartment 4hours after i had arrived, thank God, the so called meeting was finally over....my stomach was churning cos i knew his whole family was downstairs and was scared in case Ladi decided to unleash them on me...

I handed him the envelope and i watched him closely as he tore it open...he held his head and sunk into the sofa......he raised his head up again and gave me that" i'm in deep shit look". He then moves towards me and holds me tight, I pull away and he follows me and holds my hand and guides me back to the sofa. At this point i just want to shut my eyes and sleep. my head was tired and i was speechless..he won't stop trying to get some words out of me.

Ladi; I just want you to know that i'm here to give you all the support that you need...

tcl: sigh***before nko...you dont have a choice

Ladi: But i am not planning for a baby just yet.

tcl: Oh really!! you didnt know this before you were shooting without protection eh... I do not plan to have a baby just yet too...soo i'm taking it out...

Ladi: begging....Please do not tell anyone about this , not even Bully

tcl: Are you kidding me? Course i told her already....she knows about it, she heard before you...

Ladi: Sh**t...okay , please let no one else hear of this....

Tcl: Oh am i supposed to go on AIT to make an announcement? idiot!!

Ladi:So do you know any doctor that can help

Tcl; Nope...i dunno.

Ladi: Okay, i'll ask around for some refferal

Tcl: It better be a good Gynae and Hospital.

On this note we both went to bed...Woke up the next morning, he made couple of phonecalls, then went to his brother's flat downstairs and came back with a solution...so i asked him if he mentioned anything to his brother cos i know that they're very close...he hesitated at first and later said yes...i was upset but at the same time i just wanted a solution as soon as possible!! So we took off to some hospital in VI, he said i should go in and he'll remain in the car and wait for me..He told me to tell the Doctor that i came alone if he asked me where my supposed boify was.

Apparently, the Doctor is a gynaecologist in a reputable hospital and doesnt do abortions unless its totally necessary...So i went in, saw alot of familiar faces and was just praying that they never got wind of what i came to do at the hospital otherwise i'll be a dead goat. So i went ahead and did the vitals...waited for a bit and then finally went in to see the Gynae after waiting for about 50 minutes... he ordered me to take another preggie test.Whilst we were awaiting the result, he gave me the lecture of my life, i felt belittled and reduced, i have never been so ashamed in all my life. I guess luck was on my side cos he told me that he doesnt do extraction (D&C), that is if i am above 7-8 weeks he will not be able to help me.. Fortunately for me, i was just about 51/2 weeks so i was indeed very lucky...All i had to do was swallow a couple of pills..So he handed over the medication to me and gave instructions on dosage and all of these vame with a very huge price tag....about 86K.... Meanwhile Ladi only gave me 50K and i wasn't about to start dragging with him to refund so i just told him its going to cost 86k and i will come up with the difference......I will rather not disclose what happened after swallowing the pill but i was glad that my visit to the hospital wa sucessful....

So there was a lot of tension between Ladi and i, i refused to speak to him after the hospital cause i was traumatized, i bled alot and thought i was going to die....And i promised my self that it will be the last time i'd ever have unprotected sex or an abortion...

I was in shock for about 5 weeks, i started hallucinating, i had very scary dreams, and i would mumble words lke where is my baby...It was a horrid experience , i dont pray for my enemy to go thru what i went thru it was like going to hell and back....there i was thinking it was going to be an easy excersice yet it almost drove me mad...

To now add salt upon injury....3 months later i had an engagement on the island and had to ask Ladi if i could pass the night at his which he said was okay.. CAN U IMAGINE THAT LADI TRIED TO TOUCH ME????I almost passed out, i thought he had gone raving mad, he felt no remorse whatsoever from the past incident and i just came to the conclusion that i needed to run far far away from him....It turned out that he really never had any good intentions for me from the start and its sooo sad it took me almost seven months to realise that.....

What a shame!!!

WOW!!!this is definately a long ass post...hope you dont get bored whilst you're at it..

Hope ya'll have a Lovely weekend.

Cheers!!!!